Wedding Soup

By Shreya Kataria

I guess the whole chaos regarding it makes a little sense now.

Now that I have entered the eligible age group of tying the knot I find myself confused and without any cue as to how everything will unfold. With no special one currently in my life, I find myself out of place in this context. How can I trust anyone's choice regarding this. It has to be my choice so that I can live in situations when this sacred bond would be tested with the fact that it was my choice. Things won't pinch the same as they would if it had been some other person's choice. To avoid the blame game, I have to take things in my hand now but the question is how?

For taking things effectively in my hand and finally coming out with flying colours I need to get my head together regarding a few things. So let’s open the gates to an open clear headed communication to reach a conclusion.

The idea of true love is just so fascinating that almost every girl at least wishes to experience it in her life. But in reality, we may find the guy but then they are not the prince charming in many aspects. We have to accept the flaws that are stealing our idea of true love depicted in movies such as Twilight. This applies at both the ends. They accept our flaws too making our love Real Love. So, I guess Real love is the goal. Real Love is the answer.

Our obsession with the filmy pyaar has to be reduced a little and has to be moved towards real love that is realistic, fulfilling and most importantly possible. The primary thing is the initial feeling that makes us immediately feel that he is the one. I guess this feeling is very important for making us fall in love with the person everyday if the person becomes our partner. So when we feel the feeling with respect to a person, the next step comes into picture which is to pursue the person for converting the person into an acquaintance. A brief interaction, introduction is the key for the usual Hellos, Goodbyes to start and thereafter interesting, short, crisp communications are important to maintain the flow. Once, we feel that the communication is reciprocated even to a small extent from the other end, we should lay the foundation of taking some time out and buying the other person’s time as well for a healthy, interesting communication. The communication may be anything but it should essentially focus on getting to know the other person’s persona, his likings, behaviour, values. Simultaneously, we should also express ourselves and make the other person know about us as well.

Time is an important aspect that is needed for any communication to occur. Hence, proper planning is necessary for the communication to occur over weekends through meetings over coffee, snacks, lunch, dinner, choosing an interesting destination and spending some time there, movie, shopping if the other person likes to do so, virtual meetings if time is a constraint. These meetings are important to get to know their real side, their beliefs and making the other person know our real side as well so that we can decide if that is something we can deal with everyday, if their values vibe with ours. In all these meetings, the important thing is to make sure that the communication is reciprocated. This will make sure that the feelings are developing and being reciprocated. If everything is ok to go with, the next step is to take it further. Soon with time, Good Nights, Good Mornings will become a thing. Although, nowadays they come into picture as soon as a virtual chat gets started but I guess they are the killers of real love. Things are supposed to move with a cute pace considering the rest of the life to be spent together if you really want, wish that to happen.

So, the intention of writing all this was to pour my heart, head out and then reach a conclusion. Now, that I go back and read everything again, it makes me wonder that this write-up can also serve in the interest of others by making them believe and indulge in the Real Love instead of the Filmy True Love as Love is a very beautiful feeling to share with someone but understanding the difference between imagination fuelled by movies and actual reality is very important as life is not something just in our head. Life is real and in the present. So, make sure to get your piece of real love and marry it someday. Hopefully, fingers crossed I will too.

By Shreya Kataria