The Uncelebrated Cry, And The Unrewarded Healer.

By Syona Rajput

The Uncelebrated Cry

Crying. The act of shedding tears or weeping, typically done undergoing the emotions of distress, pain or sorrow. We tend to run over that "typically" a little too quickly, forgetting that crying goes both ways. The existence of the act of crying when in joy is often overlooked. How could we possibly forget the happy tears? Those moments of joy, those adrenaline rushes, those sudden surprises, and those moments of nothing but pure blissfulness, that are just too strong for smiles or laughs and need a much more powerful form to be expressed, are too expressed by crying. Crying when sad has many terms such as weeping, sobbing, wailing, and sniffling. There isn't one word in English literature to describe gleeful tears. Happy crying is all it is. It is unfair to assume that when one cries, it has to be because of pain. I aspire we would question whether the tears are of sorrow or delight, instead of immediately jumping to the conclusion that they are of melancholy. Although I do not blame humans for their instant assumption of tears being of misery. It is likely they assume that. We do cry more often due to pain than we do due to pleasure. It takes a certain amount of hurt or happy to make one cry. One reaches the sensation of sadness, much more often and quicker, that causes them to dissolve into tears, than one reaches that of happiness, which causes them to cry. In simpler words, it is much easier to gather the amount of sadness that makes us cry than to gather the amount of happiness that does. Either we cry more often due to pain than pleasure because we are subjected to more pain than pleasure or it could also be that pain is stronger than pleasure. But it would be unethical to forget our tears with us at our most elated times. Laughs were there. But so was the unappreciated cry.

The Unrewarded Healer.

Although I never understood why the act done, under either sorts of emotions, is regarded as such a poor play. It is quite unfair to the act itself to be viewed the way it is. The moment one starts to cry, those surrounding them will make it their mission to make the person stop as if crying is something one should prevent. The act has been misunderstood. Only because one does it when in sorrow, that too not in all cases, does not mean the act is malicious. One does not cry because it causes sorrow. One cries because of sorrow, and crying when in sorrow makes us feel relatively freer or better. Meaning, crying is healing itself! The act is a healer, which gets deemed as a hurter. Here's how I would put it. Imagine lying on the ground hurt, bruised, beaten and scared, there are people standing that have circled you, while there is one person with their arms wrapped around you, on the ground with you as well. Those surrounding you are constantly trying to pull the hugger away from you, and trying to convince you that the hugger is a 'bad influence'. Even though none of them are helpful and the sole comfort you are receiving, is that being handed to you by the hugger. Here the hugger is the cry, trying to be snatched away from you, from the people just standing and pointing fingers at the hugger. I belive a true love would sit down next to you without trying to shoo away the hugger and welcome it and you with open arms, instead. Its not crying that doesn't feel good, instead, it is what causes us to cry that doesn't see good. Betrayal does not feel good, physical harm does not feel good, hatred does not feel good, guilt does not feel good, loss does not feel good, anger does not feel good, jealousy does not feel good. Crying does. It is not an emotion, it is an act. And it is done when you feel an emotion usually (not always.), a negative one. While laughing brings comfort at times of joy, crying brings comfort at times of sorrow. We should stop asking one another "why are you crying?" and ask "what is making you cry?", instead. Crying is not something that should be prevented, instead, recommended. When a person cries it is not always a clear indication wether they are in pain. Although, it is a confirmation that if they are, they are getting better. They are healing. Laughing and smiling are

there with us at our best, with us in our happiest moments. But how could we possibly neglect the what was there with us at our worst? Sometimes worst and best. The healer that stayed at our worst, the one no one saw, the one which appeared at harshest of times. This healer was rather uncredited for the amount of damage it healed. Neither laughs not grins could heal us at our worst, they simply provided us with amusement at aur best. How sad it is to not be valued instead, discouraged when the ones around do not realise, the aid they are being provided with. How sad it it to be the unrewarded healer?

By Syona Rajput