Relationships Rule You

By Shefali William

I was always thought that me being an independent girl will never be ruled by anybody else but little did I know about the force of RELATIONSHIPS . The biggest force in front of which we become helpless and let that force rule us , is RELATIONSHIPS, yes yes everyone heard it right it is the most powerful force and this force we humans have created for us to rule us . In INDIA there is saying “rishtedar Kya kahege ‘’ and who gave them the power to rule our emotions and feelings towards situations we ourselves or let’s blame the ancestors for everything . The relationships which we choose ourselves also only rule us rather than empowering us most of the time . It’s always said relationships build us why nobody talks about them breaking your real self

because apparently it’s not to be spoken about . I always say that I say what I want to and do what I want to but am I true to myself because I always think of if they will like it , exactly this they just rules over ME . Strong people stay in abusive relationships for years why because it’s love even when it hurts you physically and mentally but it’s okay all of us just keep making the so called selfless compromises because somebody has to but nobody questions why because is it ok!!! because it’s between them and world doesn’t know about it , I mean why do we need the world to wake us up to know that the external force is ruling us because we are tuned for it for generations that when people tell us ohh ur suppressed than we realise that we are suppressed but our own created/given relations . I am not against ME TOO drive but that drive shows that people were suppressed for years to maintain so called relationships or connections . Just ask yourself a question is this struggle worth the relationships I am maintaining , confused I am too because If you decide to come out of it mmmm it’s like detangling a cobweb, does it happen I don’t know but it’s possible because we have examples of great people who accepted their true selves and now we follow them as celebrities but all of us have that tiny bug inside us which keeps saying be your own ruler . You know what I believe that when it comes to us as a person be a DICTATOR and not a DEMOCRAT be a little selfish and live with what you believe and who you are rather then just letting relationships decides what is right and where you should be marking your boundaries. Don’t live a little rather than live a lot with a handful of relationships. In words of a great person just learn to let go of toxic relationships may be you can’t stop loving them but you will be better version of yourself by letting them go , so let it just go and stay true to yourself, if you know what you are doing is not wrong then don’t explain yourself. Let relationships not stand between you and your inner self that’s all that matters .

By Shefali William