Overthinkers Edition

By Krina Dave

This is for all the overthinkers out there. Just like me, if you are an overthinker too you would be able to relate to it. Presenting to you podcast by Kriarsh “Overthinkers edition”

We tend to relate everything to future. For us living in the past experiences and future worries is something we always think about. Even if we met a person like few months before, we happily assume that the person is going to stay in our life forever. For us trusting someone easily and making them integral part of our future is what comes naturally to us. Funny thing is if it’s a relationship we think yes, He or she is the one and just like Dhoom movie’s Uday Chopra we start dreaming and thinking, yes, they are going to be our life partner. In terms of friendship as well, it’s right to say we believe yehi mera yaar hai yehi meri dost hai, they are not gonna go anywhere. Now, where this ends totally depends on the quality of relations we make and the type of people we trust.

Second quality is that we have our mind dictionary of our own. Just like Sherlock holmes has a mind Map. We assume stuff in our own way. The words which may mean the usual to other people from the “foresaid dictionary” for us the words mean completely different. It’s basically called a “Overthinkers dictionary”. Let us say some friends told us “Bro, today won’t be meeting we are tired, lets hang out tomorrow. For others it’s a pretty valid reason but for us its an excuse. We think maybe they are bored of our company. Maybe they will avoid us the same way and will stop meeting eventually. Even though the person is ready to meet us the next day. (LAUGH)

Our brain has some kind of 2X wires. It runs faster than others. We tend to think so much in a particular direction or for an excuse given to us or a statement made to us by someone that we try to find hidden reasons and excuses behind it till the time it starts hurting us. Evaluating even smaller stuff and picking up words from the statements made by our friends or in a relationship is our favourite pastime. Which eventually leads to fights, because the opposite person just says it casually but us “ohh noo no its not casual. It’s a personal attack” We don’t want to do it intentionally but we end up hurting by thinking so much, so fast and for no reason.

Validation is what we try to seek all the time. Having this constant urge to get loved by EVERYONE I mean literally everyone is something we crave for secretly. We love to be loved all the time by everyone even if we fight or throw tantrums or assume stuff, we want people to love us all the time.

So, it’s safe to tell you that yes, we are overthinkers and we hurt our heart and mind by overthinking. My advice to all of you, try and stop overthinking peeps as its not safe for our heart health. Hope we understand this soon.

By Krina Dave