Illusion

By Gurpreet Kaur

If you are changing yourself for your loved ones, are they really liking the actual you or just the perfect illusion you have created for them according to their demands? This situation will lead to only two things. Firstly, you will keep on changing yourself for others your whole life and once you get tired of it, you won't even remember who you really are. It takes years to actually know and understand a person and that too is not permanent because it's human nature to change themselves time to time for their own growth, not only physically and intellectually but mentally and emotionally too. So, what do you expect to do?

Changing for them when they change and it's stupidity. You should focus on yourself, your likes, your dislikes, your emotions, your desires, your passion, your personality, what actually makes you happy and it should be you who stimulates the change in you, for your own growth and improvement. Second, if you are changing for someone, there will be a expectation somewhere in you that he/she will also change for you or he/she should change because you did the same thing for them, leading to conflicts if they don't. You will be always unhappy when they will choose themselves over you, when you were always choosing them over yourself. So start living for yourself, change for yourself, love yourself and the right person will love you for the actual you. He/she will even enjoy all the changes with you that you will inculcate in yourself for your growth with your own choices and wishes.

By Gurpreet Kaur