I Met A Modern Girl

By Mohamed Sathik S

When we think about our past events, we may have some questions in our minds. What has happened to us? What was

the purpose of this happening? What are the benefits we get from these things happening? Does God make any sense by

doing this? Will these happen again or will this be the first and last? Some more generous bizarre questions are likely to

vary from person to person depending on their perspective of what happened.

It may be that the purpose of the Lord performing this is for us to think about it and learn from it. Some events will dissolve instantly without even

thinking about a pill second. While some events

will be felt in the mind like a nail hitting tree, and

even if the nail slips away from the tree, that impact

will last for a lifetime.

Sometimes the best experiences in our lives are

etched in our minds as unforgettable events and they

always sow some kind of deep thought. These

incidents continue to immerse us in our thoughts and

give us some sort of curiosity.

Many people come and go like a peal of thunder in

my life. The moments they had come, and the traces

they left were unnoticed. But a few people would go

to the bound of my life that will remain in my mind as

the most memorable human beings.

So the one I met recently has come and went in just a

few days and had done deep domination and a very

deep impact on my belief is that I couldn't even

imagine.

Although that person is a girl who is more

knowledgeable, older, more experienced, and

naughtier than me‌. We may think that the person

could be predicted by her appearances and actions. It

is wrong to think so, but when we see a person, a

kind of mindset of" "she is ____; "and" she will be like

this" will automatically arise in our minds. I had the

same mindset about this person, but what she did

was she changed my mind and completely shattered

the perceptions I had of people like her.

Yes, she is a modern woman. The reflection of

Western culture can be easily seen by anyone in her

appearance and is her ability to speak and interact

easily with everyone, regardless of gender. If she

moves from one place to another the attention of

every people's eyes will be on her. Because of these,

I've had very little value about her. But I still wonder

about her upcoming actions that have changed my

mind.

The one who made me wonder if a 'Modern' woman

could be so knowledgeable and experienced.

In just three incidents I can define her.

One day she and I went to the hotel to dine. Although

it looks like a hotel for the rich, I do not think it's a

high-class hotel, but it's a little too big. Hunger was

for both of us since it was lunchtime. I had never

been to a hotel like that before, so I gave her the

menu card. She ordered food along with me. We were

talking at that particular time which might be until

the food arrived. Then a little closer to the two of us,

three other men were sitting and eating. Then one of

those three men looked at this girl for a long time. My

friend, the girl noticed it and asked, "Why are you

staring at me like this?” Conflict erupted on both

sides of us to re-question that with little knowledge.

Although I could not control my anger, those people

were engaging in satire. He and I were still fighting

while the woman was embarrassed by them. But at

the same time, she had talked to me very calmly

though we were engaged in sarcasm so many times

before our food arrived. Because their rhetoric was in

a very crude way. They had finished eating by the

time the plate came to our table. As they were

leaving, only one person who had been arguing with

me came up towards us and said, "The man who was

staring at you had told us earlier that you were really

like his cousin. That's why he stared at you'". The girl,

who should be angrier than me, took the chicken

from our table and showed it to the person, and said

"Have a bite, brother!” That person replied, "No

problem dear, you eat". After that, the three of them

further said that they not only treated us well but

also paid for the food we ate. I was amazed to see that

she was so cool and had fun talking to them and

making a friendship and they were performing to the

point of apologizing to us. I wonder if those three

men who argued with me praised the woman, saying,

A "woman should not be afraid to ask such a bold and

courageous question. "Initially, the conflict that came

up when we were sitting and talking finally became

friendly after they ate and we left with the joy of

having a new experience too. The important thing

which has surprised me is that the woman who was

talking to me very calmly and funnily whiles those

men and I were fighting and engaging in arguing.

After we both left the hotel, I asked the girl, "How did

you talk so cool and funny while we fought with that

man? At the same time, when the person came back

and gave his statement, you spoke with him very

patiently and naughtily and developed a friendship

with them. How did you finally make it possible for

them to apologize?" I asked.

She said, "This is the first time you've had this

happen with me. But I'm had a lot of events like this.

Now we have eaten, right? Out of this incident were

in many of the events I encountered even I struggled

to eat, you know? What do you think is the reason for

this fight even now? That's the style of dress I'm

wearing."

Although she said this matter casually and with a

smile on her face, the moment I heard it, I understood

the pain and what the suffering she was going

through. The girl's western culture dressing sense

could be an arguable matter even though when she

and I walk or when we go out, everyone's eyes would

be on the woman, why? Is it because she has dressed

so modern? Or do they judge by their eyes that those

who dress like this are the wrong people?

But, even in this emotional event, the woman's ability

to face the situation without any anxiety or fear is

truly astonishing.

In the second event, she and I went to the cafeteria in

our company for tea. The price of tea is only Rs. 10.

The tea came as soon as we ordered it and I didn't

like it as much. What can we do? I tried to drink 10

rupees as I thought it could be tea. The girl had just

drunk the tea, and when she drank it she also hasn't

seemed to like it either. She said to the person who

brought the tea, "You put the milk in an oven and

heated it so the milk doesn't boil and that is why the

tea's taste is like a dumb, you can taste it too. We will

give you some more money if you want. Do the milk

boiled and get some a nice cup of tea." The person

took the cups of tea which we already drank.

I said, "Why did you say like that? He felt ashamed

himself, and this is 10 rupees tea only right?"

She said, "You look so sinful to him. For these 10

rupees, we work from morning till night, scolding our

seniors, carrying the workload on our backs, and

working overtime. You can think, this is what their

job is also. We did not like tea, so we told him to

drink too, and we were willing to pay more, we did

not order him anything, we just kindly asked, and he

was ready to fulfill our request." The tea came just as

we were talking, we drank the tea, and it tasted a

little bit better than the previous one, she continued,

"We got this flavored tea just because we heard it". I

stared at her in amazement. You might think that she

did the right thing, as many women do. No, the

reason I am so stunned is that she is not a woman

who can be in a difficult situation like me, she is a

modern woman. Also, she was a comfort woman, too.

Her salary is 6 times higher than mine.

I never dreamed that such an event would take place

in this place and that such a response would come

from her following it.

The ingenuity of the woman who knew that no

matter where the mistake was, no matter how small

it was. The ability to tap into it, to tell the wrongdoer

their mistake without regretting it, and to instantly

illustrate to me by instance an event that could not be

realized no matter how many books we read. What

am I saying?

In the third case, the woman and I were sitting side

by side because we were working in the same

company. Whenever our seniors or officers tease us, I

and other new hires like me will go into a state of

panic. But this girl used to deal with these kinds of

situations very calmly and patiently, no matter how

many times they scolded, yelled, or cornered her.

This thing came as a surprise to many of my

colleagues like me. I can't tolerate my enthusiasm.

Finally, I asked her" How do you handle the situation

so patiently?” She said, "We all do the same job. There

are loads of seniors and officers around us, right?

They are also workers of this company, also can work

like us. The only difference between them and us is

experience. They have more grades and salaries than

us because they have more experience than us.

We must obey what they tell us to do, but we don't

need to obey what they want us to do beyond our

work. All of us who can work here are equal,

regardless of grade, experience, and salary. “She said.

The inevitable things which are suddenly come to my

mind at the mere hearing of this were that, "we are

all people and that some of our chosen ones are our

rulers. We must follow the plans of what they will say

and do. But we have no need or compulsion to be

bound by the decisions they make using their

positions to their advantage and the detriment of the

people. Putting aside the rule, power, position, and

caste, we are all one people". The conception and

clarity of the woman who made me realize such a

huge political issue through an event in corporate life

is commendable.

God will teach us in many ways, many new

experiences from things and from people we did not

expect at all. For example, if the path is two, which

paths do we choose as the right one? God will guide

us even with thorns if we think. Do you ask me how?

If there are a lot of thorns in one particular path then

that path itself is the wrong path. Similarly, we

should try to feel such memorable events into

experiences and learn lessons from them. I traveled

with her for only three days, though those three days

became the most memorable days of my life. Through

the journey with that woman, I can still recount many

experiences through some events. Her every action

continued to make me aware of my presence, self-

esteem, and state of faith.

I do not know if I will ever see that girl again. But

those three days are unlikely to come again even if

we meet again. Those were the most memorable days

of my life.

“There are some who bring a light so great to the

world that even after they have gone the light

remains” - Habeeb Rahman

I am pretty sure, she is one of them and Yeah! She

was my best Bosom Buddy.

By Mohamed Sathik S