How 2B Happie - 3

By Karuna Kochar

My grandmother always said “you cannot give from an empty vessel”. This did not always refer to food, it spoke for everything in life!

A person who is filled with negativity and sorrow cannot give happiness. You first need to cultivate these emotions within you before you set out to distribute it among people around you.

We have been taught from childhood to always give good in place of all the bad you receive. While this is great on paper, practically this is very hard to follow. We all have cups of emotions within us, the cup of positivity may be slightly fuller within us, so we may find the energy to counter some people’s negativity with positivity. However, there will be a time we need a refill too.

Thus it is extremely important to surround yourself with people who help you add to your cup too. If people, situations, places and circumstances make you uncomfortable and sad, do not push yourself over the line to sit through it. Avoid draining yourself of positivity, avoid testing your emotions every single time.

Avoiding unpleasant experiences does not make you weak, it makes you smart!

This may sound like a selfish take on happiness although take a moment to really think about it. If you are faced with unpleasantness every single day, no matter how much you smile on the outside, you are heading to breaking point from within. We can lie to the world but its hard to lie to ourselves.

Do not give up your peace for another’s, it’s not always worth it. If you have a tough life, please find things to do that bring you joy too. No one deserves to live in pain everyday. You deserve happiness and no one’s going to serve it to you on a plate, go get your share! Find your joy and don’t feel guilty of enjoying it!

Same goes with love. We need to feel loved to be able to give love. You deserve to be loved and cared for, do not let the world tell you otherwise!

By Karuna Kochar