Fearless

By Priyam Gupta

Let us lose every damn thing that we are afraid of losing. Life begins outside our comfort zone.

Kahin pohochne ke liye kahin se nikalna bohot zaroori hai, said it right. At times, all we need is a tremendous amount of courage to follow what we seek. To break the pattern of following the same schedule again and again. Life does offer us opportunities but we end up cribbing that we cannot take it. It is all about what we can live with, the regret of not trying or the satisfaction of failing at it. Whoever shined bright before breaking a little, or the whole?

Walked into a restaurant, scanned the menu and left it? Picked up a piece of French fries and traded it for the one with more masala on it? Then, why stick along with people just because you have a history together? Drop them off too. There is a thin line between being kind and being stupid, do not blur it. At times, we stay in touch with people just because we feel we have too much to forget, but how is that fair on us? Hypocrisy and pretentious feelings seek their way into us and we let them. It is wrong to lie but even more wrong to fake. Instead of struggling to pretend, it would be better to struggle to the end. We get to live only once, why not breathe fresh air instead of suffocating? Maybe life is what happens when you are packing your stuff, to move to a new city while someone a street away is falling asleep over the phone, waiting for your call.

These days, we fall out of relationships with people. One stays too strong and the other doesn’t. So who is at fault? While one of us still stays awake late at night staring at our cell phones from a distance, waiting for it to beep but all in vain. While the other person is busy packing their stuff to start a new life, leaving all your handwritten notes behind. So, who is to complain? The only person you should hold on to the strongest is you. No matter how strongly you connect with someone, be awake for you might sleep and they might disappear. If they suffocate you, run away and get your own dose of oxygen.

Ever met someone who hurt you and behaved like you hurt them? Let us walk down the memory lane. Remember when your sibling kicked your ass and cried in front of Mom, like a victim? Sounds similar? No, you didn’t hurt them and if you did, know it yourself. Nobody randomly can pop up and unload all their baggage on you, like you caused it all. Stop taking charge of mistakes that you didn’t commit. It takes a heart to accept mistakes but it takes courage to disagree on the ones that you didn’t. People who hurt you, act victimised and then use it as a weapon to leave you are exhausting. Once you recognize them, do not go back to them, they’ll do it again.Travel and tell no one, they might complain you didn’t invite them! Do not date him just because his presence excites a rush in you, that’ll happen with almost everyone else, newness and spark. See if his presence makes your heart go stable, like the smell of home does.

Going out on dates is about excitement, adrenaline rush and smiles. Good food, good mood so why wouldn’t your heart skip beats? When he lightly brushes his fingers against yours or when he can’t take his eyes off you, blush. It is not wrong to cherish that spark, to be appreciated once in a while and to live in the moment. But, while planning it long term, choose the one who feels like home, the one who can ruin you like vodka but can also calm you like a beach. Life is not just about the spark, it is also about sharing the monotony so be ready to face it from the start.

By Priyam Gupta