Face Your Fear!!!

By Mohit Khandelwal

“Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will”. As we all know from the beginning of our birth we all have some fear or we can say that fear is instilled in us by our parents or relatives or by any other means. The difference is only that the definition of fear is different for all of us. Some of us are afraid of Heights, some of us are afraid of water, some may be afraid of darkness, but most of us are afraid of getting out of our comfort zone. I am wondering, Is it the right approach to live better life? Probably not, but still most of us are living our life the same way. As one of the famous quotes says, “Fear has two meaning: Forget everything and Run or Face everything and Rise”. I believe that category of first persons are those who are well settled in their comfort zone who don’t want to learn new things or we can say that who don’t want to adopt new things, who resist the changes like a frog, who is well addicted to the well. They believe that, No one gets greater than what is written in his destiny and before time. But, in actual they are very far away from their destiny. On the contrary, there is second category of persons who believes in overcoming the fears. They are very open in adopting new challenges and face everything and rise like a star. In the middle of all this comes another category of people, those who don’t do anything themselves and stop anyone else.

Let me share you a small instance for better understanding of my article. Once there was a cage in which 4 monkeys are locked by a person and number of bananas are hanging over the top of the cage. One monkey tries to pull the banana from the top of the cage. The person standing over their saw this and throw cold water on every monkey locked in the cage. All the monkeys locked in the cage started shivering and feeling uncomfortable of cold water.

Second time another monkey tries to pull the banana the person standing over there did the same thing he throws the cold water on every monkey locked in the cage. This cycle repeated again and again. After some time the person standing over their pulls out one monkey and put a new monkey in the cage. Now, as a new monkey who has just entered in the cage was unaware about the cold water process. So, he tries to pull the banana but now all the other monkeys who were already in the cage pull the monkey and started beating him. The new monkey who just entered the cage had no idea why he had been beaten by them. The person standing over there was just looking at the monkeys and observing them. Now, again the person pulls out one old monkey and put a new monkey in the cage. Now out of 4 monkeys 2 are aware about the cold water and had the idea of sufferings. But, 2 monkeys are not aware about the sufferings. The monkey who has just entered the cage started pulling the banana. But same thing happened with him. All the other monkeys who were already in the cage pull the new monkey and started beating him. Now, the one monkey who has not suffered the pain of cold water has also beaten the new monkey without knowing the actual reason. This process of removing and entering the new monkey keeps going. After continuing this process, at a point of time all the monkeys are new monkeys and have no idea of suffering of cold water. But, still if any one goes to pull out the banana the remaining monkeys beat the monkey without knowing the actual reason.

After couple of days the person who was standing over their pull out all the monkeys from the cage and put a new monkey over there alone. Now, the monkey who has just entered the cage tries to pull out the banana. The man throws the same cold water on him. But this time the monkey keeps on trying because there was no one to stop him. He has his own will his own goals to achieve the banana. The man who was throwing cold water felt tired and stops throwing the water on monkey. Now, that monkey ate all the bananas hanging over there.

Now in my story cage is our life which we have to live irrespective of happy moments or sad moments until we die. The person standing over the cage is a bunch of problems which we have to face our entire life. The 4 monkeys are those people in our life those who don’t do anything themselves and stop us in fulfilling our dreams. They try to flaunt our confidence and pull back us from living our dreams. The single monkey left in the cage is us who can win the situation if we face our problems tactfully and confidently.

If we face our fear and then it will be a win- win situation in both ways. Either you will succeed or you will fail. If you fail in your attempt then also you need not worry because next time when you will attempt the problem then you will not be empty handed you will have some past experience. So, face your fear and focus on the result which you will get while attempting the problems.

“Face your fears and stop allowing your mind to hold you as a prisoner”

Thanks

CA. Mohit Khandelwal

By Mohit Khandelwal