The Sunshine
- Hashtag Kalakar
- Jun 14, 2024
- 9 min read
Updated: Oct 5, 2024
By Kezhakielie Whiso
She was divorced four years into her marriage; just after she had given birth to their third child, a boy. Kienuo’s husband left her and their children for another woman. And now she was left alone to fend for their children without a father and a regular job. Some hard times were past, harder days lie ahead. She braced herself for the worst.
Kienuo had got married at the young age of nineteen. That was quite the norm in her time, though. At twenty-three, she was already a mother of three boys. And that her husband had left her for a younger woman was quite unthinkable in the beginning. When she met her husband Balie, a burly, handsome man in his early thirties, she had thought that her world was complete. Now, her world lay shattered. She had to pick up the pieces and start all over again. With the added burden of three children. Not that she considered them a burden. On the contrary, she loved them wholeheartedly. They meant the world to her. They were the reason she was still hanging on; still fighting. And the fight just got tougher.
Balie worked as a teacher in a private school. But following his father’s footsteps and influence, he also did minor contract works of construction for the government that his father managed to acquire for him. And although not regularly, his contracts fetched more money than his job at the school, which he intended to leave anyway. He was simply waiting for his big break in the world of contracts- land a big one and also get the 'promotion' to a first-class contractor. His wait had been futile so far. Meanwhile, life had taken an entirely new direction when he met Azanuo, a fellow school teacher, who managed to steal his heart from his wife.
But things were quite different in Kienuo's world. Her eldest son was barely three years old, the second had just turned two, and her third and youngest son was only a couple of months old when Balie decided to leave her and go separate ways. She was heartbroken at first. Her family didn’t help much. Her father’s reaction at her divorce had been nothing less than sarcastically caustic. It was her mother, who was more reasonable. She even invited her to come and live with them. At least until the children had grown a little older. But her pride as an independent woman kept her from going back to her parents’ house. Besides, her marriage to Balie was not exactly approved by her parents. She felt that she had to come out of this alone.
The comments from the elders of her clan weren’t any less scathing. They put the entire blame on her; who asked her to marry a 'mezhamia,' they said, referring to Balie and his ancestry. Balie was 'mixed' blood, you see. His grandparents were from another tribe, one which was referred along with a few others, mostly derogatorily, by Kienuo's tribesmen as 'mezhamie.' They had migrated to Kohima and got adopted into her tribe. Not only that, they had prospered and acquired great wealth as well. Now, they had been fully 'integrated’ into their new tribe for more than two generations. But two generations was not enough. And whenever important events like marriages came up, it was the norm for clansmen and
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relatives to dig deep into the roots and lineages of the one who they were marrying their daughter to. It was not very different with the groom’s side of relatives either. And the roots was one of the main reasons why they had disapproved of Kienuo's marriage to Balie. They wanted Kienuo to marry someone closer home; most preferably someone who was from their tribe. She was to blame entirely for this divorce; it had now opened the proverbial can of worms as far as she was concerned.
Initially, even her neighbors did not spare her. They seemed to think that the fault was mostly, if not all, hers. She could not keep her husband happy enough, leading him to look for another woman; as if 'keeping her husband happy’ was the only reason she married him. And what about him keeping her happy, she thought to herself. But the gossiping neighbors spoke as if they knew exactly what was going on in their family. Kienuo’s reputation, if any, was in tatters. Not that she cared too much about it. Their divorce, it seemed, was the talk of the town for a while. It certainly was the talk of the neighborhood.
The church reacted in its typical style- took away their memberships. That meant being struck off in the church register. They each had to confess individually in front of the congregation to win back their membership. This was, of course, because they had also taken their marriage vows in the presence of the same congregation. Separation or divorce was an offense taken very seriously by the church for very genuine reasons. That didn't, of course, stop divorces from happening. Kienuo was too timid and nervous about confessing her sin in front of the church; it was, to say the least, easier said than done. So, she for now, she kept her confessions and repentance between herself and her God. She believed that was why she was able to bear all the attacks and criticisms that came her way post her divorce.
In fact, to her surprise, she recovered from the drastic events quicker than she had expected. She had too many things on her hands to be bogged down by separation, however shameful and painful it was. She had to move on. And she did. They had been left behind in their little two-room set cottage, which Balie and Kienuo had rented soon after their marriage. This was supposed to be a temporary arrangement, Balie had told her. With an expanding family, they’d move into a larger house. Balie had even promised Kienuo a home of their own. His family had land in several parts of town, and Balie was confident that he would soon inherit part of his share of the family wealth. All these had added to the gloss of their short courtship before Balie proposed, and Kienuo more than willingly said yes to the proposal. But now the situation had changed completely. The little house they had been left with appeared more than a temporary arrangement for now.
Meanwhile, Kienuo was desperate for a job, any job. She had to feed her three children. And soon, her eldest would become old enough to go to school. The little money she'd saved from their wedding day would sustain them for a while but not for long. For a brief period, she had found a job in a grocery store nearby, but that didn't last long as the owner went bankrupt and had to close the shop. She was not qualified enough to teach in a school either. She hadn’t completed middle school. Even in her day, a matriculation certificate was required by any school for the job of a teacher. Into an unapproved marriage,
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three children, divorced and jobless, Kienuo thought herself to be the epitome of society's misfits. But fate had other things in mind, it would seem. Opportunities opened in the most unlikely of areas.
In her desperation, she had applied for the job of selling milk, which came from the government-run co-operative. She was not qualified for the job, technically, as the job required not just handling milk and customers but a little accounting as well. But on the recommendations of one of the board members, they called her for an interview. Kienuo was nervous at the prospect of facing an interview board, something strange to someone who hadn't even completed middle school. Surprisingly, for the board, her school leaving certificate was the only thing missing in Kienuo. She seemed to have all the other required credentials- honesty and integrity, good communication skills, and her little experience working as a 'manager' in a grocery store. They hired her. This was the beginning of the end of some of her troubles. She could pay the rent, put food on the table, and bring home her quota of a liter of fresh cow milk daily. The sun had just peeped out of the clouds since her bitter divorce.
Her new job required her to get up very early in the mornings. A challenge for any young nursing mother. But she couldn't effort to lose what was the only lifeline. She would often take all her three children to her job. Other times, she would leave her older kids with the neighbors and take the little one to her work, a good part of four kilometers from her house. She came back from her morning shift by 10 o'clock. In the evenings, she was required again from three to six. This was less stressful.
Kienuo was placed inside a little wooden booth, 6' x 6' in size with one door and one large, low window. Inside the cabin was a small table with a drawer and an old chair. On the floor would be placed the large, heavy aluminum cans filled with milk. Each can could hold 50 liters of milk. They were delivered to the booth at six o’clock in the morning and again at three o’clock in the evening. People would line up in long queues in the morning for the fresh, unprocessed cow milk. Customers came with aluminum cans- those with a wire handle and a lid attached to the top of the narrow neck with a hinge. These cans were of various sizes from half a liter to as big as 10-liter capacities.
Kienuo would reach the booth before the milk van arrived and with the help of the driver and his handy-man, shift the large jars inside. Once in, she would lock the door from the inside and get ready with her liquid measuring mugs- half-liter, one liter, two-liter sizes. Once she was ready, she would get up and open the window. This was the most exciting part of the morning’s proceedings. The millisecond Kienuo opened the window, close to twenty people would, at the same time, stick their aluminum cans into the window. This caused a loud clanging noise and a massive traffic jam of cans. The beggings of the customers to be served first added to the noise. From the inside of the booth, one could see the bottoms of twenty-odd cans jammed together. It seemed people were as desperate for milk as Kienuo was for this job. After the initial chaos, which sometimes tested her patience to breaking points, Kienuo would patiently take each can, fill it with the amount of milk asked, and
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somehow managed to give it back to the right pair of hands, along with the right amount of change. Slowly, the number of cans would decrease, and air would flow into the booth again! Till the last customer had had his milk, Kienuo would wait. When all the customers had been served, she would rearrange the now empty cans, count the day’s earnings and wait for the van to come and pick up the cans. She would then go home to her children. Her evening routine was less stressful; there was less milk, and there were fewer customers. At the end of the week, Kienuo would turn in the money at the cashier’s office.
From putting the kids to bed to putting them to school, Kienuo saw it all. The years flew by quickly. For years she thought that she didn't have the time to socialize, in the church or out of it. Yes, she had few precious hours to herself in the middle of the day, given the nature of her job. That was perhaps a blessing. She used this break to knit woolen sweaters and weave traditional cotton shawls and sold them for a little extra money.
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Meanwhile, her sons were growing fast. The eldest two were in school now. The youngest one was ready and all eager to follow his brothers. Once he joined them, what would she do at home alone, Kienuo wondered at times. But then, she could use all the extra time to make a better living, to raise the living standard for her sons. They were the world to her.
She dreamed of the day they would graduate; the day they would land good jobs; the day they would get married and settle down. She would be a single parent all along, cheering them on all alone. As far as she was concerned, she'd scream her throat hoarse for the sake of her boys if she had to. But as fate would have it, she would not cheer her boys all alone. Not for long, anyway. Out of the bluest blue, Kienuo found love again. The sun had left the clouds behind now. It was almost as if Heaven itself had arranged this unexpected encounter that had led to serious courtship; as if heaven had tested her and found her worthy. She knew the boys would soon stop asking about 'daddy.' She smiled to herself at the thought. That would be the biggest gift she could give them, since the day she had given them birth. Kienuo waited for the day she would break the news to her three sons.
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By Kezhakielie Whiso

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