The Lessons Never Learnt

By Battu Vania

 What can we do when life gives us so many options, but in the end you end up with a heartbreak?

After reading this sentence ,everyone must have had  some instance of their life come to mind.If you haven't then maybe either God blessed you with strength to withstand the strongest storms. or you still haven’t grown up in life.

Not all heartbreaks are caused by breakups, it's sometimes even caused by things into which you poured your 100% effort, only to see they gave you nothing in return except tears.

For example ,take example of college students, They give their tears, sweat and blood to get in a certain college and write an entrance exam just to see they didn’t make it. It was never because they didn't put enough efforts ,but they, did but still the result wasn’t the same as they expected, how would you feel ? Like a heartbreak.

For a sportsperson trying to get into a league was their living dream, but someone stole their spot due to nepotism or money? How would you feel? Like a heartbreak.

Does Luck really exist?

It was never because of our lack of efforts but sometimes we have to accept life isn’t fair. What chances some people get  daily, others have to struggle day and night just to earn it.Yes you have to agree Life isn’t fair, and that not everyone gets the same opportunities.

Yes winners are the people who never gave up ,but also they had luck on their side. For those who don’t believe in luck , trust me luck does matter in life. Basically to sum it up-preparation makes a person ready for when luck appears. In other words luck can be called opportunities that came along the way at the right time.

For example:

Elon Musk – The Right Timing with Relentless Effort

Hard work: Musk built Zip2 and PayPal by coding day and night, sleeping on office floors. Luck: He sold PayPal to eBay just before the 2001 dot-com crash — pure timing that saved him millions. That money became the seed for SpaceX and Tesla.

Thomas Edison – The Relentless Inventor

Hard work: Edison reportedly tested over 1,000 different materials before successfully inventing the electric bulb. Luck: When one of his early prototypes accidentally lasted longer than expected, it led him to realize the importance of carbonized filaments. That “lucky” accident happened only because he kept experimenting.

From the above two examples it is  clear that luck does matter. If Musk had sold PayPal  it a day later he might never have become “The Elon Musk” we all know today.

And if you haven't had your moment yet don't be disheartened. Maybe you're being kept on wait for something bigger and better -something you don't even know about yet  .Life always opens doors when we  least expect them .So whatever happens, don't stop trying because you never know when an opportunity will knock the door and this strong soldier needs to be ready for it.

Now coming to the next thing that gives us heartbreaks-Expectations.

So should we really have zero expectations?

 Being human, that's not completely possible. Yes, some people have mastered the art of letting things go, having no expectations whatsoever- and they're happy. But what about the rest of us-the normies?

We expect, we get hurt. Well, that's life. But the heart never learns, does it? Be it expectations from a person or from a certain situation- in the end, it's our heart that cries.

The Best thing? Stop expecting to let it go with the flow, because the more we hold on, the worse things get.

Won't the world be a better and happier place if we all just learn to let go?

In life, in college, we were always taught lessons that were only confined to books, but what about the real lessons we need in life? Who is going to teach us that? Who is going to teach a young adult, adult life isn't what we all dreamed of as kids?

We all thought that technological growth would bring us closer and give us more time-but why is it that we now find ourselves busier and more distant?

It is a fact that human life does not come with a manual, but isn't it beautiful that it doesn't? If it did, we would all be the same, and what's the fun in that?

Coming to the next thing-Assumptions

The fact is, most of us don't live the life we want because of the assumption we have of other people's opinions on us.

Oh, if I wear that, what would people think?

In reality, no busy or truly content person has time for that. 

Yes, people exist with too much free time and choose to judge, but trust me, their opinions never mattered to anyone, and that's the reason they talk about you.

I mean, why feel bad about that? It's your life, you get to live it the way you're supposed to.

Stop taking things on social media to your heart reels such as” How an ideal relationship/friendship should look like.” No one should get to decide it, because the sequence of incidents and situations you have may be something no one else has ever faced, so listen to your heart. Because no one loves you like you'd do.

The next and most important is comparison.

We always assume the grass is greener on the other side. But do we really know about the struggles others face? Or have we decided based on what we just heard?

 Saying” They do not have any problems, their life looks perfect"makes no sense-that's the biggest myth. You would only understand if you were put in that person's shoes. Everyone has their own silent battles- maybe not at the same level, but each problem is a hurdle for them, even if you don't see it.

The best thing to learn is to see people with kindness and empathy, and just because you are facing a problem, it doesn't make you the only person facing it.

Stop forming the circle of ego with the feeling you are suffering the most, but the truth is, all of us are in our own ways.

One thing the education system never teaches us is acceptance.

Life doesn't end when you fail an exam or interview, nor does it end when you don't get the person you wanted. Life keeps going on -and the faster you accept, the better.

The world isn’t filled with wars between countries anymore — it’s filled with wars within ourselves. The faster we accept and grow, the happier we become.

Conclusion:

Maybe life was never meant to be easy, but it was always meant to be lived. The truth is, heartbreaks, failures, and unfairness are not the end; they’re reminders that we still care, still feel, and still have a heart that hasn’t given up. Luck might decide when your time comes, but hard work decides whether you’ll be ready for it. So don’t curse your path, polish your spirit. Don’t fear the unknown; walk through it. Because one day, when the puzzle pieces finally fit, you’ll look back and realize — every unanswered prayer, every heartbreak, every “not yet” was preparing you for something far greater than you ever imagined.

By Battu Vania